Drinking alone at the bar is like sliding into your favorite sweater. There’s something comfortable about the whole experience that makes you feel like all is right in the world. Yet, like ripping a hole in your favorite sweater, it’s too easy to sabotage your solo drinking experience by not following the rules. From missing the social cues of when to speak with others to sitting in the wrong place, there are a number of things you can do to turn a pleasant experience into a distressing one. We caught up with Diane Gottsman, a national etiquette expert and the author of Modern Etiquette for a Better Life, to talk about how to make the most of those cherished moments when you get some time to yourself at the bar. Unfortunately, we can’t help you with the holes in your sweater.
1. Make Yourself Comfortable
If you aren’t comfortable being alone, you’ll just end up looking alone and sad at the bar. Learn to love yourself and you will learn to love the moments you spend without any company. “Sitting at the bar enjoying a drink or dining alone does not automatically equal someone who can’t find a date or a friend,” Gottsman says. “People often travel for business, and want to unwind with a cocktail. There is nothing wrong with going down to the bar and ordering a drink solo.” We live in a world of constant stimulation. Even if you do have friends or a date that you could spend some time with, it’s nice to relax. Just know that other people may be thinking the same thing.